“Parenting is one of the toughest jobs you’ll ever love.”
Certainly many of us have seen this popular aphorism used in advertising or highlighted in a magazine at least once since we’ve become parents. The underlying truth in this statement is that despite the Hollywood depiction of parenthood as wholly blissful and full of joy, being in the trenches with our children can be challenging, frustrating and down right difficult.
But what can we do? Gone are the days when extended families raised children together and the structure of our society is no longer conducive to the “it takes a village” approach to child rearing. The truth of the matter is that being a modern parent can be isolating and it is difficult to know where to turn for solid advice and guidance.
A poignantly written article by Anna Quindlen in a recent edition of Newsweek view Newsweek article ("A Teachable Moment: Being a parent is easy and intuitive, correct? Well, no-it's just customary to pretend that that's the case") references a study done several years ago by psychologist Laurie Miller Brotman where parents of young children from poor socioeconomic and troubled homes were enrolled in parenting programs emphasizing “consistent discipline, positive reinforcement for good behaviour – even how to get down on the floor and play.” The results were stunning and encouraging. “By the time the same kids were 11, both boys and girls were less aggressive, had less stress and the girls were less obese.”
This study speaks to the importance of parenting training. While most people will dedicate countless hours over their lifetimes updating work related skills and training to improve career success, there are few moms and dads who will take the time to register and attend a parenting course to improve skills for the benefit of their families. But investing a little time (an evening workshop or a 6 week course) can be well worth it – fewer power struggles, more sibling harmony, respectful and encouraging family communication and strengthened relationships.
From my own personal experience, aside from the helpful and applicable skills I’ve learned in the parenting courses I’ve attended, one of the biggest bonuses of being in these classes is the bonding with other struggling parents. Most of us (myself included) may sometimes pretend that we’ve got this parenting thing mastered. But there is something so liberating and refreshing about being in a room full of parents who are wiling to say “I messed up” or “my kid is driving me crazy” without recrimination. We listen to each other, gently offer respectful solutions and leave feeling refreshed, connected to other parents and hopeful for the future.
The bottom line is - parenting IS tough - but a little training will offer support and ideas to make this job one you truly will love.
Lori Wilson
Adlerian Parent in Training
For more information, email Joy at joy@parentingnetwork.ca
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